14 Lessons Learned in 2014

January 4, 2015

14 things I learned in 2014 that remembering would save me a lot of trouble in 2015 (no particular order):

1. If you don’t understand what they’re saying (and they’re smiling): laugh. Trust your gut that they’re genuinely laughing and smiling with you. They’ll like you better.

2. There’s nothing wrong with shopping. It’s a good way to save your sanity. It might be a temporary solution but it allows you to think the next step through.

3. Mom knows you best. Listen to what she says, even if it’s painful.

4. Reward is always best when you work hard for it. Never become complacent.

5. One thing at a time. Spreading yourself too thin won’t do you any good.

6. Misplaced anger is never the solution. Learn to not let anger on one thing affect other aspects in your life.

7. Relationships are more important than anything else. Your relationship with God, yourself, your family, your friends, coworkers and significant other is a much stronger foundation to who you are as a person.

8. Be vulnerable. It is in vulnerability that you find strength and it is in vulnerability that you grow as a person and in your relationships.

9. Feelings are okay. Your head does not always have to be right nor is it always right. Your heart is not always right nor is it always wrong either. Regardless, it is okay to feel. That’s how you know you’re alive and you’re human.

10. Don’t let other people treat you less than what you believe yourself to be. You’re worth more than that. You deserve more than that.

11. YOLO (you only live once) and FOMO (fear of missing out) are for people who do not have the courage to live. Don’t use it as your reasoning. Live for you.

12. Don’t be afraid of change. It’s normal. You will cower, you will fear but change is the only thing permanent in this world. If things don’t change, then you won’t either.

13. Sometimes, all you need is a good friend to stop you from doing something you’ll regret, eat good food with you to lift your spirits and have a cocktail to calm your mind.

14. You’re still maturing. Don’t worry about feeling like you’re a baby or you’re irrational. The trouble is if you dwell on this state. Allow yourself a moment of this and then let it go and then try to deal with things with a clear mind. This is the process of growth. This is how you become woman.

To more lessons in 2015, ladies!